Showing posts with label Bible. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Bible. Show all posts

Thursday, September 24, 2015

Helping Youth Have a Faith of Their Own

"This article is reprented by permission from Leading Ideasa free e-newsletter from the Lewis Center for Church Leadership of Wesley Theological Seminary and available at Lewis Center for Church Leadership"
Here is the site for the orginal article Helping Youth Have a Faith of Their Own. Originally published Feb. 8, 2012.

Helping Youth Have a Faith of Their Own
The fact that youth participate in church less as they get older and often are not present in church as young adults can lead church leaders to assume they lack religious interest. A new book growing out of the National Study of Youth and Religion challenges that assumption. Sociologists Lisa Pearce and Melinda Lundquist Denton found that older teens and young adults see great significance in religion though not always in institutional forms of religious life.
In their book A Faith of Their Own: Stability and Change in the Religiosity of America’s Adolescents (Oxford University Press, 2011), the authors follow up with 2,530 young people, age 16 to 21, surveyed about their faith and religious practices at two points in time. The authors identified five types of religious identity among these young persons.
Abiders (20 percent). These are the adolescents with the highest levels of religious interest and practice. They not only believe in God; they pray regularly, attend services, volunteer, and are most likely to say their religion is the only true faith.
Adapters (20 percent). This group shows high levels of personal religiosity. But compared to the Abiders, they are more accepting of other people’s faiths and attend religious services more sporadically. The Adapters are most likely of all the groups to help others in need.
Assenters (31 percent). These teens say they believe in God, but they are minimally engaged with their faith. Religion is tangential to other aspects of their lives.
Avoiders (24 percent). They believe in God but do not engage in any religious practice. Their God is a distant one, and they often do not name a religious affiliation.
Atheists (5 percent). They do not believe in God and do not attend services.
Meaning for Congregations
What might this mean for congregations wanting to be sensitive to the faith perspectives of youth? We know that participation in formal religious services means little to many youth. They do not necessarily see themselves as less religious because they attend worship less often. The church is often not their primary community of meaning during these years.  
The writers suggest that congregations can support youth as they refine their religious identity with an approach called “scaffolding.” Scaffolding creates a context in which youth can participate at a level just beyond where they are currently. Instead of asking youth to go where they are not ready to go, they are helped to grow from where they are. Hallmarks of all such efforts must be honesty and acknowledgement of the role of doubt in faith.
All people have distinctive issues and needs at various life stages. One lesson from this research is the importance of supporting youth in appropriate ways during these critical years.
Lovett H. Weems, Jr.

Saturday, December 27, 2014

“I DID NOTHING WRONG!”











Divorce I declare on November 25th of this year.
“If you stay I will comply!” you said.
Will my age be 95 when this I see and hear?
“I did nothing wrong!” I get all this junk from your head.
Reasonable I planned to be.
Setting some words in pencil.
Even when inside I hadn’t a “Yippee.”
Glad these words were not set in stencil.
One day a week exercise with an Fitness Instructor.
Find a church and attend.
Two times a month on Sundays I direct.
Wednesday I penned.
Date night,
Family night, time,
Couples therapy I write.
Family counseling I chime.
Tanner, a prime consideration.
We each have our own page.
While we need to tune to the same station.
Seems to me I parent around your rages.
Judge me plenty in this marriage.
If you are a Christian and fill in plenty of blanks.
Can we find a carriage,
To carry us where God ranks and we give thanks?
Whose is this baby?
Was your reply to my telling you of my pregnancy.
What does that imply to me maybe?
Great way to start the gestation.
Your way or the highway,
Has been how it seems
Our marriage a flyby,
My behavior says to you. Blowing to smithereens.
I am not lily white.
Marriage takes two.
Perfection is a quest that people must hold.  Allright I did bite.
After a bit, I bet we both blew.
Attention you want.
Tis not Tanner you are for him to prosper.
Only wanting to flaunt.
Called it Munchausen Syndrome by Proxy and like a cosper.
No to church choir.
Hated my enrolling in swimming, karate and many other sports.
Attention you said I wished to acquire.
Forbid me to run for PTA President, threatening me for some reason you’d report.
The house was always yours in title.
Shuffling aside the promise to buy a new house once married.
I didn’t do this or that which was vital.
How I felt as if I’d been buried.
When will you be home?
You were late.
Where is my tomb?
Was I mistake but your love appeared as if hate.
Plenty on our plate, for sure,
We must do,
In finding a cure,
After saying “I do!”
Already, you have stated the fitness instructor you aren’t ready for.
I, in good faith, agreed to remain for three months and try.
Let us remember it isn’t war.
Hope and faith should keep us from cries and saying bye.
Your barter was to walk the dog,
With me two or three times a week,
For 15 minutes to 30 minutes, A fog
Was not your state of mind or your critique.
One day you proclaim,
If it is going to be like this,
We won’t be part of the marriage game.
I pray we can find bliss.
You think I keep bringing up the past,
Nagging without forgiving.
However, there is a contrast.
Purposely, getting at anger thrown out isn’t how I will be living.
I asked you to write down your wants and desires.
Of all things I haven’t forgotten God first is a must.
We must put out many fires while relighting a major fire.
A wind gust of marriage thrust is needed that we trust.
Remember, telling me I couldn’t take Tanner
By himself on a vacation.
One big banner,
Is that I can do this type of migration.
Our marriage has lots of problems.
I promise to convey,
My love and earnest,
Struggle to succeed.
God states anything is possible
Through Christ.
Thinking we agree on most of the doctrinal,
Principles from the bible, we must pay the price.
Forgetting and forgiving,
Yes, I concur,
Without misgivings.
If you and I finally understand each other without it being a blur.
God, with faith,
We pray and ask,
To hear what you saith.
Vowing to endure any task.

Monday, December 22, 2014

Kerina No Longer Accepts Exceptions Are Okay For All But Her! (Fiction)




Don't you love the rules should apply to you but not to others?
Kerina of late had decided no more accepting exceptions!  Get together's with family are often stressful and cause more muscle pain from tense muscles.
Yelling at Christmas,"SHUT UP!" was wrong.  However, apologies were made.  The reason for her yelling was to get across a tablet wasn't charging.  All that was being discussed had been tried.  At the end of the night the tablet still didn't charge.  Thus, the person doing the talking wasn't listening.  Nevertheless, yelling is socially unacceptable.
One Thanksgiving a bad habit was being discussed.  Kerina knows her field of study.  Kerina made a remark about nicotine and it being used as an insecticide with other information presented. The point was to help an individual undestand that nicotine still had some risks. 
Of course this person didn't want to hear it.  He screamed YOUR WRONG! Fathers back up sons.  Even though Kerina screamed NO YOU ARE WRONG, the father but brother to Kerina screamed again, YOUR WRONG.  Instead of looking up the material as both Kerina and her brother had been taught, Kerina is supposed to let it go.  There is something wrong with Kerina.  Never has an apology arisen out of this situation. 
Kerina, not feeling well missed a play where the tickets had been bought by a sister-in-law.  Kerina slept through the play.  Kerina's husband talked with her brother and explained the situation. Kerina didn't get up or do much until Sunday night about 10PM and then just checking email and Facebook.
Imagine her suprise when this message is on Facebook from  the sister-in-law, Tina, that bought the tickets to the play, 
  Message from Tina to Kerina on Facebook that night. "Tina, I really don't understand why you had me buy two tickets for   Frank's play. And, then didn't bother to call and let us know you weren't coming or call just to let us know when you are going to reimburse to me the cost of the tickets.  I did something nice for you and you do this...You may have problems to deal with but doesn't make it right how you treat people....right?  I won't make this mistake again.  Love, ya but am very disappointed.
Well, Kerina blocked Tina then and there from Facebook.  No longer will she deal with people that need their money back or don't stop to consider that Kerina was still sick or just getting over not feeling well.  Keinra texted her brother the informatioon intending to pay them back as soon as possible.  Here again Tina gets snippy.  She can't follow a text that explains Kerina wasn't up to details and assumed Tina and Harold would be stayint with their other brother.  Tina can't wait to point out Kerina is wrong.  
Tina finally realizes Kerina blocked her on FB.  She has Harold ask her today at 7:38am if Kerina did this.  Kerina didn't respond. 
Later that day Kerina arrives at the mother's house.  Kerina tells Harold yes I blocked her that day.  
Harold goes, "Well then you can block me from your shit too." Harold gets right in her face.  
Kerina complies.  Saying okay.  She follows through right then.  
Now during this her sister, Nancy, gets upset.  Kerina needs to let it go.  The family needs to start getting along.
Kerina has had it explaining that accepting these exceptions will no longer be a part of her life.  It was not okay for her to yell at the one Christmas.  Kerina apoligized.   
It is okay for the one person to shout "YOUR WRONG," and again be shouted by the father, "YOUR WRONG!"  NO effort is made to check on  who might be right.  Kerina must let it go.
Kerina again must accept exceptions for Tina's rudeness.  Kerina must forget that Tina could have waited and tried to understand the reasons behind missing a play.  Again, Kerina will no longer accept exceptions that seem to apply only for others.  
Life is short.  Yes.  Life is too short to deal with people that want to yell they are right without considering the possbility they might be wrong.  Life is too short to be around people that want to gripe and judge others.  
Kerina is much happier now.